Choosing a song for your first dance as husband and wife, seems like it should be one of the easier tasks of wedding planning, but once you realize just how many great choices there are, the pressure can start to build up. After all, the song you pick in the end, will be the song you define as “your song” for the rest of your lives together. It will be the song that, when it plays on the radio, brings back memories of one of the most special days in your lives.
But not to worry, we have compiled a list of guidelines to ensure that this task goes down as smoothly as possible.
- Find a common ground with regards to music interest:
From personal experience, I can definitely say that opposites attract. And the same goes for taste in music. Narrow it down by focusing on one genre that you both like. Now this can be quite tricky so take your time and compromise if needed.
- Look for lyrics that speak to you as a couple:
Choosing a song that tells your story, can help you envision your first dance a little better. It is the difference between a beautiful love song and YOUR beautiful love song. It doesn’t matter what your story is, whether you started out as friends, went through a long distance relationship that ultimately brought you closer together or fell in love on a summer vacation, there is a song that speaks to every end of the relationship spectrum.
- Pick a beat that you can both dance to:
My husband has two left feet and I love the Tango and I was dead set on us doing the Tango as our first dance, but after I tried on my dream wedding dress, I quickly decided that a slow sway would be better for the both of us. There was no way that I would be able to dance or even move too much in this dress. Needless to say, my husband was very happy with the fact that he didn’t have to learn the Tango and possibly break both his legs in the process. Keep in mind that you both need to look and feel comfortable on the dancefloor.
- Dare to be different:
Don’t be afraid to be a little unconventional. If you are not the type of couple to sway along to Adele’s hit “Make you feel my love”, feel free to mix things up! It’s your day and there are no rules. This is the perfect opportunity to express yourself and your relationship with your new life partner. If you met at a Jason Derulo concert, feel free to mix it up with one of Mr. Derulo’s many upbeat tunes. Many couples these days, choose to start off their dance with a romantic slow dance song like “I won’t give up” (Jason Mraz) and then after about 30seconds, the dancefloor starts blasting to a more upbeat song like “Shut up and dance with me” (Walk the Moon). The fun thing with mixing up songs is that you can take any two of your favourite songs and make it suit your style and personality. It really is all about how you are as a couple. If you aren’t the dancing type, but really want to do a first dance, nothing is stopping you from doing a short sway and then have guests join in when the upbeat song starts up.
- Compile and compare your list of song choices to those of your partner:
Both partners compile a song list of their own, and share it with your partner. Make sure to have YouTube open for those songs that one of you might not know. You might be surprised to find that there are some songs that landed on both of your lists, helping you filter the songs one by one and ultimately leading to your chosen song.
Our Picks for First Dance Songs:
So now that we got your brain buzzing with possible ideas, here is our list of favourite first dance songs – Everything from romantic sway to fun & funky. We’ve got you covered!
- “Songbird” by Eva Cassidy
- “All of me” by John Legend
- “To make you feel my love” by Adele
- “I can’t help (falling in love with you)” by Elvis Presley
- “One day I’ll fly away” by Vaults
- “Thousand Years” by Christina Perri
- “The way you look tonight” by Tony Bennett
- “Have I told you lately that I love you” by Van Morrison
- “One and only” by Adele
- “Your song” by Elton John
- “How long will I love you” by Ellie Goulding
- “Lucky” by Jason Mraz ft. Colbie Caillat
- “Thinking out loud” by Ed Sheeran
- “Heartbeats” by Jose Gonzalez
- “Tenerife sea” by Ed Sheeran
- “You’re still the one” by Shania Twain
- “Grow old with me” by Tom Odell
- “Chasing cars” by Snow Patrol
- “Everything” by Michael Buble
- “God gave me you” by Blake Shelton
A Little More Upbeat
- “I’m yours” by Jason Mraz
- “Marry you” by Bruno Mars
- “Sky full of stars” by Coldplay
- “Love on top” by Beyonce
- “Love me now” by John Legend
- “You’re my best friend” by Queen
- “You make my dreams” by Hall & Oates
- “Accidentally in love” by Counting Crows
- “It must be love” by Madness
- “Happy” by Pharrell
- “Brown-eyed girl” by Van Morrison
- “I choose you” by Sara Bareilles
- “You are the best thing” by Ray LaMontagne
- “Better together” by Jack Johnson
- “Love me like you do” by Ellie Goulding
- “I would do anything for you” by Foster the People
- “You and me song” by The Wannadies
- “Moondance” by Van Morrison
- “I will wait” by Mumford & Sons
- “You got the love” by Candi Station
So now that you’ve got a few ideas, put on those dancing shoes and get your dance on!!!